Vows that sound
like you, not
a template.

Alex, I didn't know I was looking for you. I thought I'd already found everything I needed. Then you turned up and quietly rearranged my idea of what a good life looks like.

I promise to tell you the hard truth with kindness, even when saying nothing would be easier.
I promise to answer when you call — no question, no delay.
I promise to keep asking what you need, even when I think I already know.

In front of everyone we love — you are mine and I am yours.

I promise to always give you the window seat, except on overnight flights — I genuinely cannot sleep on the aisle and I've checked, this is a known limitation. I'm sorry.

I promise to stop reorganising the kitchen when you're not looking. Mostly.

I promise to still be the person who shows up — no matter what, no question, no delay. That one I mean with everything.

You're stuck with me. I consider this a very good outcome. I love you.

Before the ceremony:
Read aloud at least five times — emotion changes pacing completely. Time yourself speaking, not reading silently. Print in large font, double-spaced.

On the day:
Speak to your partner, not to the paper. If your voice breaks — pause, breathe, smile at them, continue. The room is with you, not judging you.

Speak more slowly than feels right. Nerves speed everyone up.